How do you help someone else??

[wants2help]

My husband has now been taking oxycontin for at least 3 years. I found out shortly after our 2nd child was born. But his sister was the one that had me confront him because she recognized the signs. He says he wants to quit and he has tried cold turkey several times.

After numerous hours on the internet looking for help I found the drug suboxone.From what I read about it I really thought it would help and it did for several months. He has been taking 8 8mg pills of suboxone a day. At the beginning of July I just had I guess womans intuition and counted his pills. Well he hadn't been taking them. He denied it blah blah blah...... so now I know he takes suboxone, oxycontin and now xanax.

We have the all american family, from the outside. And I feel like he chooses the pills over us. He never got them from a Doctor, his "best Friend" started giving him Norco's, the oxy and then his "Best Friend" suggested that he should crush it up and snort it for a better high. He was spending well over $1,200 a month on it and we cannot afford this.

I don't know what I should do. He thinks he can still hang out with the pill pusher aka...his best friend and not be tempted. It really frustrates me I am the wife, the mother, the lady of the house, I am supposed to solve the problems and keep things running at my house and it drives me nuts that I can't fix this.

Do we have to lose everything? What makes one with this problem realize? There is so much to lose and so much at stake. It would be one thing if we didn't have children relying on us.

I just want to know how to help....

[lindsey.harford]

i feel the pain and urgency in your tone. My daughter's father is also addicted. The difference is that I am also an addict. you can view my story in my profile. Unfortunately you can't make any one get clean...believe me I tried. Her father and I are not together anymore. The only thing you can change is yourself. I would suggest families anonymous. They have groups all over. Sometimes just sharing your story with other people who have the same issues as you can help. Good luck to you. Know this, he is a drug addict he's not choosing to be one. It's a serious illness that should be viewed as just that...an illness. His use has nothing to do with his love for you or your children. Hang in there.

[lindsey.harford]

Quick correction.. you can view "my story" in new posts. My thoughts are with you. Luck.