Daughter on Heroin

[mich'smom]

:( I need someone to talk to. I just found out today that my 22 year old daughter is using heroin. She has been since last year-2006 and she does not shoot it, she snorts it, it is called a puddle?? She told her best friend about her porblem a few months back and said she was quiting. She confessed to her friend the other day that she is still using but wants to quit. She just had another friend die and is really worried so she told me she and her boyfriend quit on Monday...2 days ago. I confronted her today to get it out in the open so she can quit lying to me and told her I want her to go to reheb. She is not ready and I understand that...hopefully some day she will. My question is, is snorting any less additive that shooting herion? I am all new in this and would really like to have my daughter back. She was a beautiful young lady and now she weighs about 90 lbs and looks terrible. I know there is nothing I can do but I just am lost as a mother. I love her so much and I don't know what all can happen because of this addiction. Can anyone help me please? just talk to me about this.

[QuietLunatic]

No, it's not better or less addictive. It's a safer method than injecting, but ultimately, there is no safe way to use heroin as a recreational drug.

[deweast]

:( I need someone to talk to. I just found out today that my 22 year old daughter is using heroin. She has been since last year-2006 and she does not shoot it, she snorts it, it is called a puddle?? She told her best friend about her porblem a few months back and said she was quiting. She confessed to her friend the other day that she is still using but wants to quit. She just had another friend die and is really worried so she told me she and her boyfriend quit on Monday...2 days ago. I confronted her today to get it out in the open so she can quit lying to me and told her I want her to go to reheb. She is not ready and I understand that...hopefully some day she will. My question is, is snorting any less additive that shooting herion? I am all new in this and would really like to have my daughter back. She was a beautiful young lady and now she weighs about 90 lbs and looks terrible. I know there is nothing I can do but I just am lost as a mother. I love her so much and I don't know what all can happen because of this addiction. Can anyone help me please? just talk to me about this.
hi,mich`smom...so worried for you,but at least she`s not injecting,but as the addiction continues the more she will need and thats when most addicts end up injecting,they change from the people we love to ones we cant trust and its usually the life style they get fed up of and not the drug.

[mich'smom]

And what's really sad is the confusion they go through. The ugliness and hatred. My kid is going through withdrawls and she is so back and forth. One minute she is alright and explaining everything and how she feels and then for not apparent reason, she gets upset about anything or nothing...She does not want to detox with methadone because she does not want to swap one addiction for another. any suggestions?:confused:

[kazscom]

Hi,you must be going through hell.But at least your daughter has a caring and supportive mother.Are there any support groups for relatives in your area?

[shinningstar]

I'm impressed of your effort mich'smom. You're a responsible mother. I know it's not easy to handle a daughters nowadays especially if they are a little bit rebellious. Your daughter is too young to involve such addiction. If you really want her to be treated, take her to the rehabilitation center. Don't wait for the time that she will make her life miserable.

[mtajim]

Using heroin is not safe in anyway , its addictive and will harm the body. Its better to send your daughtar to rehab. Thats the best way to save her

[mich'smom]

I want her to get into rehab but she believes she can do this on her own. (which I don't believe she can, I know she needs help) To make matter worse, she lives with this guy who "she loves" but controls her life. He is the one who got her using heroin for the first time and then dangled it over her head as a tool for control. She has been having trouble waking up during the day and wants to sleep and rest, she has a lot of joint pains and aches. I would assume because of the withdrawl. Her boyfriend is beyond that point and believes she is "faking" the syptoms. He basically is saying, I am over it, you should be too. (I don't know, I don't know how withdrawl is suppose to work...I would guess it is different with everyone.) Mich told me last night that this boyfriend asked her if she wanted him to get her some heroin to feel better. (like rubbing it in her face) She got upset and told him no, she wants to go through this with him so they can support each other because she loves him bla bla bla. She does not see it. I just want to go over there and grab her kicking and screaming and smack some sense into her. All she can say to me about it is she loves him. I am not allowed to call over there, she has to call me and it is when he is not there. They live at his parents house, they know whats going on but do nothing because "that's our son"...It's their culture, the Man controls the house and because dad is too old and is controlled by the son, the son contols the house...Does that make any sense? And I can't get her out because she is 22 and I can't make her understand. and again she will tell me, she loves him...
he is a punk with control issues. Mich used to have her own mind and soul and wisdom, but she doesn't anymore...she lives for him and his pain he aflicts(sp) upon her. And I can't get her out of there. I don't know what to do. I can't get her out of there...she wants to be there and be treated like a piece of garbage, being told what to do and how to do it. aaaahhhh. It kills me.
I need to get her out of there.

[mich'smom]

:)
Mich went to Rehab last night. Let's see where we go from here. Today is a good day. Can't worry about tomorrow because we need to get through today first...
Thanks Everyone, Hopefully You won't hear from me any more...God Bless.

[00tonytone]

:( I need someone to talk to. I just found out today that my 22 year old daughter is using heroin. She has been since last year-2006 and she does not shoot it, she snorts it, it is called a puddle?? She told her best friend about her porblem a few months back and said she was quiting. She confessed to her friend the other day that she is still using but wants to quit. She just had another friend die and is really worried so she told me she and her boyfriend quit on Monday...2 days ago. I confronted her today to get it out in the open so she can quit lying to me and told her I want her to go to reheb. She is not ready and I understand that...hopefully some day she will. My question is, is snorting any less additive that shooting herion? I am all new in this and would really like to have my daughter back. She was a beautiful young lady and now she weighs about 90 lbs and looks terrible. I know there is nothing I can do but I just am lost as a mother. I love her so much and I don't know what all can happen because of this addiction. Can anyone help me please? just talk to me about this.
Hello concerned mother, TO answer your question of snorting vs shooting, they are both about the same ( very addictive). The longer you wait to help her the harder its gonna be, because it becomes part of your life, every morning you need that fix . morning fix comes before anything else in life. Its also expensive to maintain a habit, i dont know how financially stable you are but studies have shown that family members are the number 1 enabler of an addict. best advice i could give you is to find an alanon support group for yourself and they will help you deal with what to do for your daughter and what not to do for your daughter . your gonna hear tough love thrown out there alot. good luck to you and her.
00tonytone

[nomadic addict]

my daughter is into her 12th year i think it is now of heroin addiction, we did the counselling, many detox units, the rehabs, the mental hospitals, gaol you name it weve been there. If i had my way over, and the means, and not to mention the time, (other children needed me) maybe i would have taken her to a totaly isolated spot where she couldnt run away, no one would be bothered by us doing what we needed to do. 6-12 months at least, you might think this a little bit much but the reason i say this is its not the detox thats the hard part it the rehabilitation, they need to learn to love themselves again and then love other people. The longer it goes on the harder it is for them to fit back into society, hard to stay of the drug because it controls them with such a fierce grip there is no control over it. They have to want to STAY of it not GET of it.

[Tbird12]

Hi mich's mom, i've been throught exactly what your daughter is going through, and you sound alot like my mother, i was living with my boyfriend doing herion, she knew that had been using but didn't know i was actively doin it, she hated my boyfriend and i couldnt see him for what he was because i loved him, i don't think your daughted will see until she sees it for herself no matter what you say, just be there for her no matter what and eventually she'll come around hopefully, and for doing it your self, i thought that too, it never worked for more than a week or so, i would detox my self and then just think i would be fine, but you can't do it yourself, she need to admit she is powerless over this addition, if she doesn't want to go to a detox or rehab, try to get her to go to a AA or NA meeting everynight, i'm currently in an outpatient program where i got to group and it's really helpful, she doesnt have to do it alone, AA is a great program and can help her alot, there so many people willing to help, so you dont have to do it alone, try to get her help before she starts shooting it, i was sniffing it for a year and after a while it doesn't do the job anymore, i ended up shooting herion before my 19th birthday, i hope she can do it, life is so much better sober, just try to get her to get help you do it alone