View Full Version : Help for a family member
cassiem0221
06-19-2007, 10:14 PM
I have 2 family members that are Alcoholics. Well, I would diagnose them as Alcoholics. The one drinks daily and is dependent on having the drinks. If he doesn't he gets very irritable and can't control his temper. The other drinks at least a 12 pack a day. How is the best way to talk to them about what we feel is a problem? I don't want to upset them but the issue does need to be discussed for their own health. Any suggestions? Maybe someone who has been there and done that on the receiving end?
shinningstar
06-21-2007, 01:25 AM
It's always a case to case basis. I know what you feel right now. Based on my own experience, advices are not so effective. Infact, they just ignored what I've said. Rehabilitation is the best way but you must prepare for the consequences.
kazscom
06-21-2007, 05:58 AM
The problem is the person with an alcohol problem has to admit that they have a problem before they can help themselves.Because, unfortunately they have to want to get help and give up alcohol.However,there are support groups for relatives of drinkers which I strongly suggest you join.
shinningstar
06-23-2007, 09:05 AM
Dealing with this issues is a little bit risky especially if these addicts are family members. It's so hard to help them especially if they will not cooperate. If you're alone then you really need to be strong. It takes time to cure them.
mtajim
06-24-2007, 05:44 AM
It will be hard for a family member to deal with such issue because the addict will never tell about his problem to a family member , so if possible its better to send them to rehab
QuietLunatic
06-29-2007, 11:07 PM
You can try joining Al-Anon which can help YOU cope with their behaviour if you can't get them to admit to a problem and get help for themselves.
mtajim
07-01-2007, 09:52 AM
Dont force them to leave it at once because this will be hard on them. Rather tell them what they are doing is wrong.
cassiem0221
07-05-2007, 05:43 AM
Dont force them to leave it at once because this will be hard on them. Rather tell them what they are doing is wrong.
I have tried this time and time again. The one woman refuses to admit she has a problem even though she drinks a 12 pack a day.. She tries to compare it to a person who drinks pop! She says there is no difference.. There are a few rehabs locally however upon checking into them I have found that they are "voluntary admit" facilities which means the person has to check in for themselves and I don't think that will be happening anytime soon...
I think it is better if you talk with them directly because if try to talk with them they might take you wrong and things can get worse. other way is if they are interested in reading the give them books which tells the ill effects of alcohol he will understand you are worried about him and that is the reason why you gave him the book.
SingleAgain
09-20-2007, 10:45 PM
Have you thought about arranging an intervention? Contact and hire an alcoholism counsellor, pack the person's bags already, and make sure there is a bed in a clinic.
Then have the counsellor talk you through and then lead the intervention. Until the person sees how their drinking is affecting the people in their lives they are not likely to stop.