I need answers

[Confused]

Hey im new to this site and thought i could use some help. I cant talk to friends or family about this becaue i would know their advise. My boyfriend has been an Heroine addict for a while now, at first i pretended not to notice because i didnt know how to deal with it. Recently he's been trying to quit and was put on suboxon (i dont know how to spell it) He stopped hanging out with his usual friends and has been doing so well. I can have FULL conversations with him with his eyes OPEN and he seems so much happier. Well that lasted a good month and now he just admitted to me that he used again a coulp of days ago. And for the first time i showed my emotions and got really upset with him. ive been trying to be the supportive one but i dont know how much more i can take. I stay up and worry about him all the time and i feel more like his mom not his girlfriend. Please give me advise

[fedup1234]

I have been going through a similar situation and when I read what you had to say thought I would respond because I feel the same way. I have been stolen off of and lied to and just totally betrayed. I feel like I am in hell. My "friend" has just recently stopped using but since I started researching all of this about heroin addiction I can't help but be discouraged that this will happen again. I dont think I could take much more of this. My friends say to totally cut him out of my life but then I feel like I am just turning my back on him.

[NDaisyGirl]

HI. I AM NICOLE AND I AM NEW TOTHE FORUM. I SAW YOUR DESPERATE PLEA FOR HELP/ANSWERS AND FELT THE NEED TO RESPOND. I AM ACTUALLY ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THIS. I AM THE HEROIN ADDICT SO I KNOW THE SIDE OF YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHERS. I KNOW THAT IT SOUNDS CRUEL AND IT HAS TO BE THE HARDEST THING TO DO, BUT YOU HAVE TO CUT HIM OFF IF HE CONTINUES TO RELAPSE AND LIE AND STEAL. I WAS ON SUBOXONE FOR 7 MONTHS-SOBER AND LOVING LIFE. I WENT TO A MEETING A DAY AND COLLECTED MY 6 MONTH CHIP. THEN, I RELAPSED. I LOST MORE IN THSI RELAPSE THEN I EVER HAVE AND IT HAS ONLY BEEN A FEW MONTHS, BUT THATS THE WAY IT WORKS. EVERY TIME U GO BACK OUT, THE ADDICTION GETS WORSE, IT GETS HARDER TO CLEAN UP, AND U LOSE MORE AND MORE EVERY TIME. IT WASN'T UNTIL EVERY RESOURSE WAS CUT OFF THAT I HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO CLEAN UP. GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND U CAN WRITE ME ANYTIME. NDaisyGirl@aol.com. Nicole

[QuietLunatic]

You'll have to draw the line with him and tell him that he can't have the drugs and a relationship with you, and be prepared to walk away. You're not responsible for his life choices, and you can't let him drag you down with him. Good luck, and blessings.

[addictionstyle]

You will have to work real hard with him as heroin addiction is very strong. if you want you can take professional help. It would be better if take him to some councellor as they know how to handle the things.

[rafael]

You should first ask him whether he is at all willing to quit it or not. If genuinely wants to recover then i think you should take him to councellor and take profeesional help as this a question of life of both of you. And if he Doesn't want to quite then it would be better to quit him. I know its hard but that what the brain says if you want be happy.

[laurah]

The fact that you don't want to talk to your friends and family about this says it all, because you know they'll tell you what you don't want to hear, that you should leave him, and they are right. His heroin addiction will never leave him. Do you really want to be saddled with this problem for the rest of you life? Do you want this man to be the father of your children, when you probably cant even trust him with your purse? And also, if he's injecting, how safe are you? I know it sounds cruel, but get out and find someone better.