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[son's dad]

My son is 22 years old, has been on Methadon for over 3 years & has a warrent out for his arrest. He was on probation for posession & distribution, then got busted buying heroin for himself, and did not return for his court appearance about a month ago. He has been arrested at least 4 or 5 times, all drug related arrests. So now he is back on herion.
My wife & I are at the end of knowing what to do. We told him we love you, but you must leave our house and only come back when you are ready to go to rehab, cured yourself, or you have a life or death emergancy.
We feel that our help ( talking, tuition, money, offers of therapy..ect) has not helped, perhaps only enabled him. Now we have withdrawn next to all but emergancy support, untill he quits herion.
Thanks for listening &/or responding.
son's dad

[fedup1234]

It is amazing to me what this drug is doing to this world. So many stories of the destruction it not only does to the user but anyone who cares about them. I am at my wits end trying to figure out the right things to say or do while my friend is going through this detox treatment incase it is the wrong thing. I just have been doing so much research and see how many times heroin addicts who have gone through treatment return to using. It is always a thought in my mind since this is his third time detoxing. I feel your pain and cant imagine how hard it is as a parent. I think what your doing is right, and I am sure you had second thoughts about it but to a point I think you do end up enabling them without trying. I hope your situation gets better and your son gets the treatment he needs. All you can do is pray that he is ready to get the help he needs.

[addictionstyle]

Your son do not seem to leave heroin but I think he is scared from pain that he will suffer during the recovery. Try to work on that fear then I think things will work you and your son.

[easternbrain]

Well I think it would be better to discuss it and encourage him to leave his addiction. It is Important to make him understand that your reactions will not be negative and you will always be more than ready for his help and support whenever he needs it.

It is quite essential to gain some trust before giving any advice otherwise your well meant advise may fall on deaf ears.

[rafael]

You should talk to your son more often and try to ease things for him by talking with him. Try to develop trust and convince him that you will never leave him and always be there to help him out in all situations. this support is very important for the person to pursade him for recovery.