my daughters 10yr addiction

[nomadic addict]

:( my daughter is 30 this year and she is a heavy user, she has been on the juice for 10 or 12 years. We did all the rehabs, counselling, courts that told me it was my fault, in and out of mental institutions, living on the streets and in and out of goal. we did the support thing the running around in the middle of the night, the doctors, the counsellors, the police, and not to mention social security who told my child along with lots of other teenagers to quote "leave home we will show you how", and this was on a big poster on the window of the then social security office, wish i had taken a photo of such poster. While the government gives our children the right to leave home at 15 and we have no control over them because they have rights makes it hard to be a parent and punish our children with consequences for their actions these teenagers will continue to use drugs. I love my daughter dearly and i have not lost contact with her dispite the heartache i feel everytime i see her tiny 32kg frame and the good looks she used to possess now all hollow and lifeless, how i ache for my first born. There is a stronger will than ours.........................theirs.

[mtajim]

The problem is that after the child grows past 18 you cannot have full control on her even if you live together. Thats why most child dont follow your instructions and fall in such bad traps.

[QuietLunatic]

It's crazy for social assistance or whoever, to encourage young teens to leave home. It's not like they can survive on their own, and it's irresponsible for gov't agencies to encourage it. I'm sorry your daughter is in such hard straits. Blessings to you and your family.

[Gemini]

Hi...I'm a recovering heroin addict with over 3 years clean and I know it's hard to see your child suffer but take it from me.....she won't stop until she's ready. When the consequences become to great she will stop. And until she does there is nothing you can do. The only thing you can do is pray and be there for her when she's ready. Also don't enable her with money and material things....it will only prolong her use. Because she will know that she can still manipulate you. I'll say a prayer for her.Stay Strong!

[nomadic addict]

it was great to see such a response to my first message, the political side to it all is far greater than all of us, and yes you are right there is no control from our point, but it stops at 15 not 18 so they are out of control a lot longer, the only thing that i have ever given her is a roof. a feed. and lots of cuddles and support, when the stealing started we put a stop to it quick smart, so i quess we are one of the lucky parents who have not let her manipulate our life, but i am guilty of letting her manipulate me mentaly a lot longer than i should have, until it all got too much and i realised she is old enough to make her decisions i cannot change that. a bout of depression put a stop to that, one of the demons to deal with when ALL of your children leave home and you are on your own

[nomadic addict]

dont worry i havnt given up and i am a very realistic person i know she needs to do this herself and i try to see her as often as i can, and this is always done on my terms. i have contact with quite a few places on the streets where she frequents i often get a phone call and am recognised as her mum to most of the missions and hospitals. It makes me very sad and if she reaches her demise on the streets the last thing i would like to do for her is dress her one last time.:(

[addictionstyle]

I was an alcoholic and btu recovered from it beacuse of my parents. I know heroin addiction is very stronger. I was the most spoiled son of my parents and use do whatever i feel like doing. But it was my parents who help to recover. They always showed their love for me even though i insulted and enbarras them so many times. I think you need to show your love and care for your daughter. Show her how much you worry about her, how much you love her, how much you care about her.

[laurah]

Heron really is a nasty drug, and one that is nie impossible to escape, so I really feel for you. I've had several friends who have become addicts, one who dies aged 21 after he'd been clean for years. He went back to it and overdosed. A second friend has been an addict for the best part of a decade, but she finally managed to get clean when she found out she was pregnant. I'm not saying that any one should get preganant, but that perhaps a reason to give up would really help.

[hazephase]

All addcitions start with hurt and then to cover up the hurt we sure drugs and other thing to get rid of hurt but when you are talking about heroin its a diffrent story cause the person is already in a diffrent level . The only thing you can be is be loving , supportive to words her .

[rafael]

All addcitions start with hurt and then to cover up the hurt we sure drugs and other thing to get rid of hurt but when you are talking about heroin its a diffrent story cause the person is already in a diffrent level . The only thing you can be is be loving , supportive to words her .

It is the significant reason but its not correct at all. There are other ways also to get rid of hurt but the worst part of the story is that people find adiction is the best way. They need to be strong and that attitude comes from within.

[websurfpro]

I guess it is a hard moment to see your children suffer , whatever the reason, but when it comes to drugs things get desperate. The problem here is the child`s company , they rarely inherit the like for drugs in the familly, so there`s nothing much you can do about it. They need special conceilling.