View Full Version : Addiction as a means to get Social
easternbrain
09-11-2007, 10:48 AM
One of our classmate desparately wanted to join our group as a friend coz he used to think that we guys are simply amazing and "cool". Almost everybody used to smoke cigarettes in our group. So he took to smoking to get friends with us, the very thing which he hated at one time. I found it rather odd but he succeded.
What do you guys say?
Its quite natural in the young age that youngster feel that it is cool to smoke and find it very rocking. And here the addiction engulf them.
easternbrain
09-29-2007, 03:21 AM
Apart from the smoking thing, what pretty amused me was that the idea that he could get along with us by simply start smoking. Had it been drinking instead of smoking he would have started drinking. What I want to say is that he took to smoking just to hang out with us guys.
hazephase
09-29-2007, 01:05 PM
I do that some times when I don't want to make people feel out of place but I don't care any more as I feel that people will like me as I am a open person with nothing to hide .
attagirl
09-29-2007, 07:25 PM
I think that it is never worth starting a bad habit just to get in with someone. Those are not the people that I would enjoy hanging around the most. I wonder what his motivations were. Did he not have a lot of friends, what did the people in the group say about him.
Archbob
09-30-2007, 05:00 AM
Yes, if you have to drink to get with someone, that person is most likely not worth getting with in the first place. There are many other ways besides drinking to fit into a crowd and if they force you to drink, you should probably not be hanging out with that crowd in the first place.
easternbrain
09-30-2007, 07:01 AM
What this particular incident made me think was that there are many such people who do not actually want to indulge in any such activity but they are kinda forced to do it in a direct or indirect way. And in this way they become addicted.
It seems so foolish to start doing any thing which you yourself disapprove of just because you could be counted one amongst the cool guys.
rafael
10-05-2007, 07:30 AM
It is foolishness and you can't say it anything else. Taking addiction to please others whom you don't know is foolishness. But thats the truth many people do it and get into trouble later in their life.
This is a very common thing and many people specially during teenage they do it because teenage is such that we are very excited about making new frinds and to do so we are ready to do anything for it.
easternbrain
10-08-2007, 04:15 AM
This kind of a problem is more of a behavioural problem actually. Not everyone is naturally "equipped" to deal with the issues that we encounter in our daily lives.
I think that this particular thing should be an integrated part of the schooling.
websurfpro
10-10-2007, 05:48 PM
This is just the way I started smoking, because of my buddies I just could not say I don`t want to smoke , I would have made a shame of my self in front of them, so I smoked after school hiding with my buddies in different places. Anyway the will of a child to smoke especially after a certain age is because they want to feel mature, they admire the adults and they just want to be like them.