Grr My teen

[Shadow]

My teenager says the club drugs are all the rave and that they are safe . He says that girls that take them may get more inhibited with stuff but that they want to anyway and this helps them. Im not sure what to tell him or if I should tell the school that all the kids do it?

[laurah]

I doubt this would be news to the school. Nor do I think they would take your word for it. Do you mean to say that your child, who is still in secondary school, ie. under 18, is taking club drugs at school, or that he is going out under aged? Because if so, I think there's a pretty easy solution to both of these problems. If your son is over 18 and by school you mean college, let him get on with it, he's an adult and trying to stop him will only push him away from you.

[hazephase]

I used to do X and I alway found that if there is a lot of speed my teeth go Grr . We all want to be happy and that is why I and lots of the other kids today start to take to drugs and sex etc . We are all looking to be happy .
Whats that ans ? find ways that make you happy , help poor people , do meditation , do yoga , do tai chi . Find what works for you .

[Archbob]

I hate to say this but your teen is full of crap. He doesn't know anything about club drugs. X is not an inhibitor to any extent and will make you do stupid things. LSD will just cause bad judgement in people. Most of all, they are not safe. People can and do die from such things.

[laurah]

Hazephase are you suggesting that she encourages her child to do charity work? And meditation? Or are you just rambling on and not actually giving her any relevant advice at all? She wants to know how to stop her child taking drugs, if you think meditating will help him achieve an inner happiness so that he doesn't want to take drugs any longer, how do you suggest she talks him into it?

[LW75]

I think you should keep talking. Find material from legitimate sources that shows how dangerous these drugs are. Talk to him about how kids brains (the prefrontal cortex) are not finished maturing until early- to mid- twenties, and how their judgment is often based on an immature brain (no matter how mature they may look on the outside).

I'd even talk to him about how he if he knows any of those girls well he should try to let them know how dangerous club drugs can be. I'd talk about how undignified it is to be so "out of your mind" you look stupid and ridiculous.

My mother's thing when I was growing up was always, "You're lucky enough to have a good head. Don't do anything to muck it up."

I think all any parent can do is keep talking and talking, but I think its important to make sure you give legitimate, reasonable, reasons for why the drugs are bad. Say something like, "I know kids use marijuana, and I don't like the idea of that, but at least it doesn't pose the danger club drugs can." Saying that kind of thing can let a kid know his parent is aware that not all drugs are alike, but the particular drug in question has its own set of dangers. It helps kids see that while you acknowledge not approving of marijuana you aren't just panicking over every drug just because its a drug, and that you have your solid reasons for being against club drugs.

If he's young enough, paying attention to how much free time he has to be out and partying probably makes sense.

The world is full of people who are out there, telling him how ok these drugs are. You may be the only one in the position of presenting him the facts. Stand your ground and vow to remain the one, strong, influence in his life. Its not guarantee, but it can help.

[websurfpro]

your teen don`t know what they are talking about, are you reffering to your kids? or pupils? Those drugs mentioned are lethal or they can destroy someone`s life, I think they should be given some information about the drugs so they will change their minds. There is no such thing as legal club drug.

[jr_sci]

Firstly you better control your own ward and if he doesn't stop then you better inform the school authorities about this issue.