sex addicts therapy.

[rox]

what are the causes of sex addiction..why do people continue to be addicted to sex..and how can they come out of it?

[QuietLunatic]

That's a good question. I haven't researched this, but my first guess would be that for women especially, it's tied into low self-esteem and looking for something to give a sense of value and a sense of being loved. Women will trade sex for affection, whereas men will trade affection for sex.

[britjojo]

I think there is a little more to it than that. One my dear friends back at home was a sex addict, and she had wonderfully high self esteem. For her it was more that she was just addicted to the feeling of orgasm, and perhaps there was a hormonal element to it.

Lets face it, good sex feels good. Endorphins are released which are pleasant for our body, so I cannot see it as being any different to any other type of chemical addiction.

[SAmember]

what are the causes of sex addiction..why do people continue to be addicted to sex..and how can they come out of it?

I can only answer this based on my own experience. I don't know what causes a person to become addicted to sex. Probably like any other addiction there are a number of factors that come into play. Looking back on my childhood I was always sort of sexually driven. I think I began to have erotic fantasies when I was about 4 or 5 years old. From there it just progressed.

Ultimately for me what kept me in my addiction for so many years was my isolation. I didn't bother to talk about my feelings or problems very much, I didn't think that was important. I wasn't a loner but I didn't really belong to any community. Those who I did associate with were often unhealthy people themselves. Sex addiction also causes a person to feel a lot of shame about their behavior...further increasing their isolation.

Sexaddicts Anonymous gave me what I was really looking for all along. Unconditional love, acceptance and community. Within a few months of joining I began to experience recovery for the first time...it truly felt like a miracle.

Sex is a drug to a sex addict. It gives us a high that allows us to numb out our emotional pain...at least for a while. As time goes on in order to get the same "high" we usually end up looking for new ways to get it. So our behavior becomes riskier and riskier. Usually the riskier we were...the better the high felt at the time, and the worse we felt afterward.

I think what drives sex addiction is living a life of emotional isolation. By that I mean keeping your feelings locked up inside you. SA gave me the chance to talk about my feelings without having someone else judge me or tell me what I should do. People just listened and offered me their unconditional love and support.

A councilor once told me that "sex addiction is a substitute for relationship" and I think that pretty much hits the nail on the head.

I hope this was of some help.
:)

[shinningstar]

I don't have enough idea about sex addiction because I don't have any friend who suffered such thing. But I heard that sex addiction is too hard to combat even doctors can't easily stop it. How true? What's the difference of sex maniac and sex addict?

[Rohitpatel]

I can only answer this based on my own experience. I don't know what causes a person to become addicted to sex. Probably like any other addiction there are a number of factors that come into play. Looking back on my childhood I was always sort of sexually driven. I think I began to have erotic fantasies when I was about 4 or 5 years old. From there it just progressed.

Ultimately for me what kept me in my addiction for so many years was my isolation. I didn't bother to talk about my feelings or problems very much, I didn't think that was important. I wasn't a loner but I didn't really belong to any community. Those who I did associate with were often unhealthy people themselves. Sex addiction also causes a person to feel a lot of shame about their behavior...further increasing their isolation.

Sexaddicts Anonymous gave me what I was really looking for all along. Unconditional love, acceptance and community. Within a few months of joining I began to experience recovery for the first time...it truly felt like a miracle.

Sex is a drug to a sex addict. It gives us a high that allows us to numb out our emotional pain...at least for a while. As time goes on in order to get the same "high" we usually end up looking for new ways to get it. So our behavior becomes riskier and riskier. Usually the riskier we were...the better the high felt at the time, and the worse we felt afterward.

I think what drives sex addiction is living a life of emotional isolation. By that I mean keeping your feelings locked up inside you. SA gave me the chance to talk about my feelings without having someone else judge me or tell me what I should do. People just listened and offered me their unconditional love and support.

A councilor once told me that "sex addiction is a substitute for relationship" and I think that pretty much hits the nail on the head.

I hope this was of some help.
:)
Well this is an excellent answer for this specially for us who doesn't have much information about Sex addiction and don't researched. I agree with you on this point. Thanks for good post.

[Jewel]

Some people who are in relationships still experience sexual addictions, so I don' think that it's necessarily a lack of relationship in all cases. I think that there is not just one cause for this addiction, like any other type of addiction.

[Ronaldo]

I agree with jewel. People are so much addicted to sec addiction that they land up in problem with their wife or girlfriend in their later life.