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If you're the grown child of an alcoholic parent or parents is there something you think younger children of alcoholic parents should know?
Is there something you think they should be aware of (maybe as far as understanding how it will affect them later or things that they would benefit from knowing)?
What do you wish someone had helped you understand better earlier?
attagirl
10-26-2007, 04:26 PM
I would like to know from those who have reached adulthood, How the addiction of your parents have affected your life and which path you chose to take when it comes to growing up? Did you just say I will never do this? or was it something that you just said well they did it and so can I.
fever
11-08-2007, 04:19 PM
By living in such a situation in which the parents are addicted to alcohol or drugs, the life of the children became hell and they led a difficult life
surfville
11-09-2007, 10:22 AM
It is a sad story of the same dialog everyday, having to listen to arguments of the same topics and not a very good situation. Although all of it was over now because my father had recovered,
StillHaveHope
01-17-2008, 10:05 PM
Both my mother and father were addicts and alcoholics while I was growing up. Thankfully my father has been clean now for 20 years and I am so proud of him. Unfortunatly my mother, has not recovered.
There are so many ways this can and most likely will affect your life.
For me personally I have dealt with trusting people, I don't open up very often. I feel as if if everything in my outside world is neat and tidy then I can deal with the other things. In other words I am a perfectionist and a clean freak. I make lists and plans and if there is the smallest change to those plans I lose it. Control issues. This is just the small thigns and everyone is different. One thing is for sure, you don't live through it and come out unscathed.
As for deciding what to do in your life and how you turn out. Well, the way I see it you have two options. You can do what my brother and sister did and blame all your problems on your addict/alcoholic parents and go through life miserable cause life isnt fair. Get on drugs, or "experiment" which is never a good idea when it runs in the family. Or you can try to bring it into a positive light and say hey! I can break the cycle here! My children can have the life I wasnt able to have. Or, because I have been through this, I can share my experience, strength and hope with other who are struggling.
It is all up to you how you turn out. Just know that if you decide to take that onee pill, have that one beer, it could turn out very badly for you.
Hope that helped.
zionshael
01-22-2008, 07:02 AM
Yes, I am. This is my first time in this forum site. And I'll be staying here for as long as this site is running.
My father has just passed away. He was an alcoholic. He started drinking when he was still 14 years old. He returned to our Creator last year at 54. So he was drinking for forty years.
I have many things to share about alcoholism. My childhood was painful. Seeing my father messed up his life was never a beautiful site for an innocent child like me before.
I'll be reading threads here and share my thoughts. It seems I have a lot of reading materials to catch up.
God bless us all.