Abuse and Addiction

[attagirl]

There are many people that I know of that are alcohol addicts and because of that I see a lot of abuse going on with them. Can someone please explain to me the affects that cause people who are addicted to abuse others? And how does that relate to mental state when sober?

[mambios]

I think that they do so as a means of having some control in their lives.

Think about it, they are controlled themselves by the addiction which by it's nature consumes a lot of time, effort and energy.

The only way to counteract that is to find someone weaker to control - which normally manifests itself as abuse of some kind.

[attagirl]

That is something I have never really thought about. But I do think you are right about as well. When you cannot control your own life you might feel the need to control another's. Makes a lot of sense, I still would like to hear what others have to say as well.

[why123]

I think that they do so as a means of having some control in their lives

[attagirl]

That is sad that they would do this for this reason. If this is the case, then I would imagine it only shows that women are stronger emotionally than men. I am not saying there are not cases of reversed abuse but there are a lot more men in this than women. I do not think that alcohol or drugs are the only reasons why this takes place. I believe that some men are just brought up in a way that is meant to keep their women in place (so to speak) and when that women gets out of line in their book that is when they abuse.

[laurah]

My step dad was an alcoholic, and as a result he beat my mother, and has previously attcked both me and my sister. His addiction is no excuse for this though, he's just a complete arse, drunk or sober.

[attagirl]

My step dad was an alcoholic, and as a result he beat my mother, and has previously attcked both me and my sister. His addiction is no excuse for this though, he's just a complete arse, drunk or sober.


I agree that other sickness is not the excuse to do other things such as abuse. I think that as society sits back they are really accepting these things, and it is often taken too lightly. I do not think it should be punished in the manner it is. There are people doing less and getting more jail time then these beaters do.

[Rohitpatel]

My step dad was an alcoholic, and as a result he beat my mother, and has previously attcked both me and my sister. His addiction is no excuse for this though, he's just a complete arse, drunk or sober.
Well that was very sad and I know a friend who has same problem from his father. He was an alcoholic and did same thing but he was recover from it due Goverment's progarm which offer money if poeple drop their addiction.