Who is really to blame?

[attagirl]

We often hear about adult children who had alcoholic parents and how that effected their lives. Then they blame their downfall in life on society and how no one was there to help them when they needed help so they too became as their parents. Who is really to blame for this? I find that there is too much blame being thrown around and not enough help which is where the focus should be. What do you think.

[surfville]

I have to dis agree that would simply depend on how the kids are brought up because even some alcoholic parent raise there child good. I did and not like what they were before maybe im lucky? but it also depends on the kid having alcoholic parent doesn't mean you have the license to be one.

[attagirl]

Curious to know what you are in disagreeance with about the statement. I know there are some parents that are alcholics that raise very good kids. I have personally seen that. You do not have to like how the parents were in order to be a good person.

What I was saying is that you have kids that turn out bad because of what the parents did in their lives and the kids blame society for that and do not want to take any responsibilty. You can have good kids then as adults they become addicts themselves and then blame the parents and the world. Life does not work like that, you do not all the sudden get to blame the world or parents for your adult failures when you had a great child hood with alcoholics that never raised you poorly.

[lilmisskate]

i've never heard of a child with alcoholic parents who weren't affected in some way.
me, my dad beat me, and his disease progressed as i grew up. i know that affected my development and now i'm bipolar. but i don't blame my dad, i blame my family's inherent irishness. ive never blamed society for what's gone on in my life, even when i was an anorexic and had every right to blame society.

really, i just view it all as "ok, this is what's happened. no going back and changing it, so no need to waste time with the blame game."

[elsphit]

I think the one who is really to be blamed is the Child / Children, because they have their own mind and they know what are they going to do. You can't Blame the Parents because they just only Guiding their Sons / Daughters. Its up to the children if they will be good or be in the bad influence.
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