View Full Version : Nothing more dark then the addiction itself
attagirl
10-31-2007, 05:54 PM
Having known a few people with addictions to drugs I have to say that they seem to think that admitting their is a problem and recovering is very dark. But I personally have to say that there is nothing more dark than the addiction itself. My very good friend has a problem and has admitted to that addiction but will do nothing to take proactive measures as live in fear that healing themselves would make them not be the same person as they are with the addiction. I agree with that entirely they will not be, but should not be afraid to make that change because they may be a much better person.
How can I help.
One of the most disappointing realizations that someone who is close to an addict can make is the realization that an addict may actually think, "If I don't get high then what will I do?"
They can go through rehab, stop using, and still complain about "being bored".
Some I know described me and her friends as being "in a battle for her soul", with me being the one who was trying to pull her away from drugs, but her buddies as being the ones who kept trying to pull her back in.
This person talks about how difficult "being pulled in two different directions" is, and I've never been sure whether she's really that helpless or whether she's laying a foundation (trying to manipulate me) for future mess-ups by setting up the excuse ahead of time.
attagirl
11-03-2007, 04:30 PM
You bring up a very good point. Maybe she feels that she needs to setup excuses then there is a reason for failure. I wish people did not think in that way, but they do. I am curious to know who has been friends with her the longest and who has the current strongest realtionship with her. I ask because if you are the answer to both then you might need to give some tuff love, without making her turn away.
MondDivi5i0n
12-09-2007, 10:58 PM
I like the treatment center technique of writing a Dear John letter to your addiction. It helps separate the shame and the guilt. It also makes it something that doesn't have to be an instrinsic part of ourselves.