Tim_62
01-04-2008, 03:51 AM
I have many Issues I would like to work on to improve my self and my life,
but right now I have to focus on certain things and issues,
I got into trouble with alcohol and my child was with me,
My Ex fell in love with a new man while in our relationship,
I had a hard time coping,
I got drunk in my car (Parked, not driving) but I ended up
with a "reckless endangerment" charge.
(hot car closed windows nearly passed out daddy to an infant)
I went to and completed a drug and alcohol treatment program,
I stayed clean and sober for over a year,
I found that the classes really did do me a ton of good.
they helped me handle the next two times she went off and rubbed my nose in new love affairs and I stayed clean and sober proudly for a vary long time.
then after me and my Ex broke up I had a ton of issues dumped
on me nearly all at once and I relapsed,
(grandmother died, father had a heart attack, I got laid off from work,
I had become a full time single father,(and no my child was not in my care at the time this time) My Ex was ignoring spending time with our child and his breaking heart was getting to me, etc etc etc)
I ended up with a DUI.
now I can plainly see that my coping skills was put to the test and I failed.
now,
My Ex filed for an domestic violence protection order on me, mostly to try and take our child from me, and to help her get a free Lawyer through Legal aid,
we went to court over it and even though the judge let me keep our child (I have him 4 days out of the week and her 3, but nice to say our child is much more happy now) the judge let her keep the restraining order as a cooling off period for us until we resolve the custody issues, there was no violence, or so I thought, after much research I found that simple harassment is a domestic violence, and I did harass the piss out of her after a time because I got sick of our child having a broken heart because of the mother ignoring him to spend all her time (for WEEKS) with her new boyfriend that she bumped BOTH of us for, I could understand it was my lot to feel abandoned and rejected, thats life, but it hurt me seeing our baby having to deal with those feelings as well when he did not have to, he needed BOTH of us in his life, and I bugged her about us needing to talk about holidays dealing with our child and his medical appointments (he missed a few, when I had him all the time I needed to know these things so I could take him) she would never answer me on anything.
but if I knew then what I know now, I would have filed for custody
long ago and just comforted our child during these hard times.
Now I am just getting into a really nasty child custody fight,
My Ex is trying to use these things against me,
and she is trying to TOTALLY strip our child from me,
I need to know what class's I need to take to improve not only my self and well being, but to improve my chances in court of wining my fair share of custody of our child.
I have been sober now for over 3 months, (since the DUI)
those was the only two alcohol related incidences I ever had in my life thats on record.
but right now I have to focus on certain things and issues,
I got into trouble with alcohol and my child was with me,
My Ex fell in love with a new man while in our relationship,
I had a hard time coping,
I got drunk in my car (Parked, not driving) but I ended up
with a "reckless endangerment" charge.
(hot car closed windows nearly passed out daddy to an infant)
I went to and completed a drug and alcohol treatment program,
I stayed clean and sober for over a year,
I found that the classes really did do me a ton of good.
they helped me handle the next two times she went off and rubbed my nose in new love affairs and I stayed clean and sober proudly for a vary long time.
then after me and my Ex broke up I had a ton of issues dumped
on me nearly all at once and I relapsed,
(grandmother died, father had a heart attack, I got laid off from work,
I had become a full time single father,(and no my child was not in my care at the time this time) My Ex was ignoring spending time with our child and his breaking heart was getting to me, etc etc etc)
I ended up with a DUI.
now I can plainly see that my coping skills was put to the test and I failed.
now,
My Ex filed for an domestic violence protection order on me, mostly to try and take our child from me, and to help her get a free Lawyer through Legal aid,
we went to court over it and even though the judge let me keep our child (I have him 4 days out of the week and her 3, but nice to say our child is much more happy now) the judge let her keep the restraining order as a cooling off period for us until we resolve the custody issues, there was no violence, or so I thought, after much research I found that simple harassment is a domestic violence, and I did harass the piss out of her after a time because I got sick of our child having a broken heart because of the mother ignoring him to spend all her time (for WEEKS) with her new boyfriend that she bumped BOTH of us for, I could understand it was my lot to feel abandoned and rejected, thats life, but it hurt me seeing our baby having to deal with those feelings as well when he did not have to, he needed BOTH of us in his life, and I bugged her about us needing to talk about holidays dealing with our child and his medical appointments (he missed a few, when I had him all the time I needed to know these things so I could take him) she would never answer me on anything.
but if I knew then what I know now, I would have filed for custody
long ago and just comforted our child during these hard times.
Now I am just getting into a really nasty child custody fight,
My Ex is trying to use these things against me,
and she is trying to TOTALLY strip our child from me,
I need to know what class's I need to take to improve not only my self and well being, but to improve my chances in court of wining my fair share of custody of our child.
I have been sober now for over 3 months, (since the DUI)
those was the only two alcohol related incidences I ever had in my life thats on record.