Casual Heroin

[QuietLunatic]

My ex-husband tried lots of drugs in his youth, and one of them was heroin. He didn't tell me about it until after we were married, but he said he really enjoyed the whole process, not just the drug itself. The odd thing is that he was into it for about three months and then just stopped using it altogether. I've never understood how he could do that, but it was good that he did.

[mtajim]

Many people can do that , once your intrest goes fro any drug you tend to leave it and try other kinds of drugs

[britjojo]

I can only imagine that his use was so infrequent that no physiological need was able to develop. Of course, this is a very GOOD thing for you!

[mram]

I can only imagine that his use was so infrequent that no physiological need was able to develop. Of course, this is a very GOOD thing for you!
GOOD thing for her? How about him, the user? I'm a former heroin user and I did shoot dope for quite some time and still to this day I'm in treatment, but my use affected ME FAR more than my ex wife or anyone else around me.
Sure, my ex had to see me in the misery, but that was NOTHING compaired to the misery I went through and still do years later. My use had many horendous effects on me that some I'm just now beginning to discover and my ex suffers NONE of it.
My ex didn't leave me when I was using when she shoud have left. No, she waited several years later until I was getting my life back into order and THEN decided to hit the bricks and skip out.
I get sick of hearing about all the poor, poor people who have nothing to do with using, but find all sorts of reasons to find self pitty. Get a life.
If he stole money then fine, complain about that, if he cheated on her fine complain about that, but his occasional use? I HARDLY feel any sympathy there.

[QuietLunatic]

Of course, it's possible his primary sclerosing cholangitis (a liver disease) was related to those few months of heroine use. Who knows? If so, then those few months of heroine in his twenties took his life at age 53. So complain all you want, mram, about the difficulties you've gone through. You're still alive and able to go on. And your ex might not suffer the same physical effects, but there are emotional wounds that have hit everyone who cares about you--parents, friends...everyone.

May you find healing.

[britjojo]

Thank you mram for that. I think however you missed my point.

I was talking to someone that I have been talking to for a little while on here, in a friendly manner. I was saying that it was good for HER that he had quit, so that when they met he was clean. Perhaps if he hadn't been, they would not have got together, and her life may have been very different.

At no point did I discount the damage it might have done HIM. Nor would I ever. But you chose to attack based on one post when you know nothing of me or my history.

Please, if you have any reason in the future to question my posts, do so by addressing rather than attacking me. Thank you.

[QuietLunatic]

And you're right, britjojo. If he had been heavy into the drugs when we met, I wouldn't have married him and our three kids wouldn't exist, and that would be bad. :) They're wonderful young people.

[Ricardo]

At first I found the title of the thread "Casual Heroin" interesting, because I don't think of any use of heroin as casual.

I do see the context of the title, though.

[jimberan]

Heroin is one of the worst and most addictive drugs out there. I don't believe that casual users really exist.

[mtajim]

Yes , i agree , once a person takes heroin it really makes that person its addict , you cant leave it unless you really get too down

[QuietLunatic]

I've you've read this thread, mtajim, you'll see it IS possible. My ex was a steady heroin user for about three months and then just walked away from it. It's not common, I'm sure, but it IS possible.

[esbesnez]

GOOD thing for her? How about him, the user? I'm a former heroin user and I did shoot dope for quite some time and still to this day I'm in treatment, but my use affected ME FAR more than my ex wife or anyone else around me.
Sure, my ex had to see me in the misery, but that was NOTHING compaired to the misery I went through and still do years later. My use had many horendous effects on me that some I'm just now beginning to discover and my ex suffers NONE of it.
My ex didn't leave me when I was using when she shoud have left. No, she waited several years later until I was getting my life back into order and THEN decided to hit the bricks and skip out.
I get sick of hearing about all the poor, poor people who have nothing to do with using, but find all sorts of reasons to find self pitty. Get a life.
If he stole money then fine, complain about that, if he cheated on her fine complain about that, but his occasional use? I HARDLY feel any sympathy there.
i ndont think anyone was actually complaining, it all just simply was from a comment about how she thaught it unusual that her husband was able to walk away from the gear and do it so easily that he never turned back and so the thread your complaining to said yea well hte explaination for how he walked awy from it so easy is cuz he wasnt into enough to be phsychologically adicted. then comes your rant out of nowhere and im just wondering if your not real cluey, maybe you should re-read it, cuz far as i see your complaining sbout something that just not there, you have interpreted the message way wrong. nothing personal i liked some of the stuff you have written, just thaught id point out noone was complaining on the train of thaught your on.

[esbesnez]

I've you've read this thread, mtajim, you'll see it IS possible. My ex was a steady heroin user for about three months and then just walked away from it. It's not common, I'm sure, but it IS possible.what do you call a steady heroin user? sorry but three months is physically impossible to qualify for the term of heroin adict in its true intended form- even if you fast forwarded the process -3 months is only long enough to be just aproaching the beginning of step one on your way to being an adict. at this stage your just starting to get lost into the adiction, your still reachable at this point , its the beginning of the long road to the end.your not too far gone yet. so sorry but thankfully your ex doesnt qualify to speak as an ex heroin adict -only as a person who came close. i know as my ex is the same as yours, when we stopped after 3 mths of frequent use, it wasnt nice, it was tough, but my ex stayed off it and i went back to it. after 8 years when i finally got off it, well lets just say- i know what im saying on this topic. believe me there are many who claim to be ex adicts like your ex- why do they want to pin that on and wear it like a b adge? i wouldnt if it wernt true.its not that they are lieing egsactly ,they got close enough to know what it would be like without actually losing it .its like dipping a foot in as opposed to jumping in completely - and then saying yea i went in the water.