When someone is dealing with an addiction, one of the hardest parts of them getting help is often simply to admit that they are having a problem. Unfortunately it is much too easy for a person to just completely deny that they are struggling with some kind of a drug addiction.
When this problem occurs, what it often takes is someone else staging an intervention, and that intervention being what helps the afflicted individual realize:
- That they have a problem.
- That they need to seek out help.
- That the help they need is available if they are willing to reach for it.
Preparing Mentally for the Intervention
In order to ensure that your intervention is successful it is vital that you prepare yourself for the task at hand. Taking a loved one on and forcing them to face the true addiction that they are going through is a difficult task to say the least. Making sure you are emotionally ready to follow through with the intervention is essential to being successful and helping them see the truth.
Professional Intervention Help
A successful intervention cannot even begin without the right help to guide you along the way. You might think you can do this on your own but once you get started you will find a very different story. A professional interventionist can walk you through the steps that need to take place in order to be successful in your attempts at intervention. They will be able to guide you and help you make the right choices for your intervention. A qualified interventionist has been through the procedure multiple times and has a good idea of what will work and what will not.
Important Things to Remember When Staging an Intervention
Drug intervention is a vital part of treatment for any individual who is in denial of the problems at hand. This having been said it is extremely important to be very organized about the intervention process. This will allow you to be prepared for any turn of events that might occur along the way. Being prepared is the key to success. Make sure that you are extremely detailed in the planning of the intervention. Talk with the individuals participating in the intervention so that you are sure each person has a clear understanding of what they will be doing during the intervention and what their role will be for the process. Keeping everyone working together is essential.
Meet with the participants of the intervention as often as possible before the event to practice the process and the steps. This will help relieve some of the pressure when the real thing is upon you. It is important that the loved one you are trying to help does not feel as though they are being judged and the best way to accomplish that is by everyone understanding their roles.
Be prepared for what is about to happen. The loved one you are trying to help is more than likely going to object to the entire event and even the notion that there is anything wrong in the first place. They may initially feel violated, disrespected and betrayed by all of those involved in the intervention. They are likely to lash out at all those making what they see as accusations toward them. They could be verbally abusive in an effort to divert from the subject at hand. Being prepared for this to happen will help everyone stay on track and stay focused on the end goal.
Understanding the Options
Before beginning the intervention it is a good idea to discuss the treatment options for your loved one with your chosen interventionist. This will eliminate any floundering or confusing at the time of the intervention that could cause the loved one to take an opportunity to change their mind once they give in to the help. Having a decent set of intervention options is important. If the intention is to allow the individual to make some of the choices then having a complete grasp of the options and how they work is vital. If on the other hand, the family and friends involved in the intervention, with the help of the professional interventionist, are going to make the decisions on what approach to take, getting on the same page is important. Going over the details of the facility to be used for treatment, the process for admitting the loved one right from the intervention location and the expectations during their time in the facility is important to the success.
Scheduling the Intervention
One fact that may seem simple and obvious but that is often overlooked initially is the scheduling of the intervention. While you want as many people to participate as possible it may not be possible to get them all together at the same time. For this reason the most important individuals with the greatest impact should be selected and scheduling should accommodate those schedules. This will ensure that the key individuals will be able to participate in the intervention.
While you are not trying to attack your loved one, you also need to pick a time and date that they would not expect the intervention. If they were aware of the plan they are likely to not show up. Selecting a date and time that will work well for your key participants and that is an unexpected time and date for your loved one will do the trick.
Choosing Intervention Participants
While you certainly want as many individuals who care for the loved one involved in the intervention as possible it is important that you be a bit selective regarding your participants. You want to make sure that these individuals mean a great deal to your loved one because they will have a greater impact on that individual. What these people have to say will matter most to them and will have the greatest chance of getting through to the individual. Any pain having been caused to these participants by the addiction of the loved one will affect them greater.
Understand the Goal of the Intervention
Making sure that all of the participants fully understand the goal of the intervention before you actually attempt it is very important. The intervention is not an opportunity for everyone to point out this person's faults and how they have hurt them, although some of this information is instrumental in a successful intervention. This is not a time to gang up on this person and give them a piece of your mind.
The intervention is a time where you try to make an impact on someone you love who may believe that there is no problem in their lives with an addiction. This is an opportunity to use the massiveness of the group of people that this individual cares about to show them how loved they are and how many individuals see an issue and want to help them find help. It is an awakening without judgment in hopes that they will accept the helping hand that is offered in that moment of realization. By offering help in a large group and telling them how much they love the individual and want to see them safe and happy the loved one has the ability to accept help without having to seek it.
Know What to Say During the Intervention
Taking the time to think about what you want to say during the intervention will help produce a smooth intervention. You want to remember to not be judgmental in your speech but explain to the individual how much you care for them, what you see as a problem and be prepared with a clear example of a moment in time when that person's addiction has hurt or harmed you in some way. This will bring to light the gravity of the addiction and help that person to see what they may not have seen clearly before. They are likely blinded by their addiction and do not even remember ever hurting anyone or causing any problems with their addiction. Writing this down is a good way to stay on target when the emotions run high during the intervention.
Be Prepared with Consequences
Each participant needs to have ready a list of the consequences they are ready to go through with if the loved one refuses treatment. This could be asking this individual to find a new place to live or stop visiting or calling. It is important that each participant is really ready to go through with these consequences. These consequences are important for both the loved one and the participant. Not following through would simply be an enabling of that individuals addiction. Without consequences the individual may not feel the need to stop.
Remember that this is a loved one not the enemy. You are trying to help them and sometimes that means not letting them get away with the addictive behavior that is causing them and you harm. Taking the steps to help them find their way back is the best thing that you can do for their future.