Humbly Asked Him to Remove Our Shortcomings
Alcoholics Anonymous Step 1 - We are no longer in denial, we are able to admit that our lives were unmanageable because alcohol was controlling us, we couldn't control it.
Alcoholics Anonymous Step 2 - In the second step we searched deep within ourselves and found our own higher power whom-ever or what-ever that may be to us that will give us hope, strength, and courage.
Alcoholics Anonymous Step 3 - With the third step we have to be completely willing to turn over the way we think (which has been negative) as well as our actions (which have been negative) over to our 'higher power' as we individually understand him.
Alcoholics Anonymous Step 4 - In this step we searched deep inside taking honest moral inventory of our self, who have I been, what have I done, and where have my behaviors taken me. Where have I ended up due to my addictive behaviors?
Alcoholics Anonymous Step 5 - This is a hard step and unless it's worked thoroughly and completely to the best of our ability we are only short changing ourselves. It was hard enough in step 4 to take responsibility for our shortcoming s by admitting them to our self. In this step, we have to take what we know now, our deep dark secrets and admit them to another person as well as our 'higher power'. It wasn't easy but we did it and the denial we once hid behind is now gone, and it feels good. We are on our way now to a healthy and happy sobriety.
Alcoholics Anonymous Step 6 - In this step we are preparing ourselves to let go of the negative character flaws and defects that we now recognize about our self. By the time step 6 is completed we not only identified our shortcomings but we are completely willing to give them up and get rid of them which is in no way easy to do.
With Step 7 we have already made our fearless moral inventory in which we found character flaws and defects in ourselves that once we really reflected upon, were quite humiliating. We have learned a lot about ourselves since then and we are growing spiritually because of what we've recognized and learned. We are no longer justifying our past behaviors and faults, instead we're humbly seeing and feeling them.
At one time we were arrogant, self-centered and egotistical but now we understand ourselves better and realize we're not perfect, we don't just hurt ourselves, and our past behaviors have made us and others miserable. We can't understand and change behaviors and attitudes if we don't even realize they exist.
We not only see our flaws now but feel them and some of them are painful. Now we understand that we can't grow as a person and embrace life if we're holding onto them. We're beginning to 'get it' now and we realize it's time to change our attitudes but we can't do it by ourselves.
None of us are perfect, we all have our strengths and weaknesses and its ok to admit that we need help and can't do it alone. We trust, have faith and receive strength from our Higher Power (HP) now and are able to truly and humbly ask to have our shortcomings removed.
This doesn't mean that 'poof' you're healed and your character flaws and defects are gone for good, this is a lifelong process that we need to work at and be mindful of every day.