In our last entry we looked at how our addictive inner dialogs with specific absent others become repetitive such that the dynamic of our inner conversations themselves keep us trapped in our addictions. Underlying this dynamic is a closed feedback loop. It is this closed loop that keeps the addict from “seeing” the downward spiral that is occurring-sometimes unfortunately even unto death.
This phenomena is classic systems theory wherein closed systems-systems that do not change-eventually die. The key then is to break out of the closed system of repetitive thoughts.
Recall that our inner dialogs always require our inner speaker and an inner listener. The first step in breaking out of the repetitive dialogs is to simply become aware of what is going on within the dialog itself. As we learn to “watch” our own Inner dialogs we note that as the observer we can-at will-at least change the inner listeners we choose to converse with.
This small change has profound implications for as we learn to change our inner listeners from the perspective of an inner observer we can begin to break the closed loop of addiction itself.
In our next entry we will look at how our inner observer can become the gateway to recovery.
Rick Murphy, M.A.