The 3rd Step of Alcoholics Anonymous

The 3rd Step of Alcoholics Anonymous

Third Step of AA

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him

Step 1

We are no longer in denial, we are able to admit that our lives were unmanageable because alcohol was controlling us, we couldn't control it.

Step 2

In the second step we searched deep within ourselves and found our own higher power whom-ever or what-ever that may be to us that will give us hope, strength, and courage.

Sometimes it's best to break down important words and phrases in order to find the true meaning of what's being said. Let's start with decision, which means making up your own mind. Before you can make a decision one must completely think the problem, thought or idea through. There should be no other influences, this is something that you have to feel and be ok with inside. Your decision in this third step is a commitment that you're making.

Turn our will and our lives over to the care of God to me doesn't mean giving up your life, to me it means letting go of old negative ways of thinking and the way we lived our lives in the past. Using the strength, hope, and courage you receive from your higher power to make better choices with healthier thinking.

With the third step we have to be completely willing to turn over the way we think (which has been negative) as well as our actions (which have been negative) over to our 'higher power' as we individually understand him. This is a decision that has to be made deep with-in ourselves and can take some time to do. It's easy to say but not always easy to do. We must actively be mindful that our higher power cares about us, gives us strength, courage and hope.

As I said this step isn't as easy as it sounds, giving our control up is disturbing to some people. Many people working through AA's 12 Steps find that they have to go back to steps 1 and 2 for a while before they are able to work step 3. Talking with their sponsor and listening to others in the group has helped a great deal for many people struggling understand and get through Step 3.

I believe that Step 3 can help a person confidently give up their old ways of thinking and making choices in order to heal. Many people have to meditate on the third step often because it continually helps them stay focused on letting go of negative thinking. I understand how this could help someone stay mindful of their higher power and carry the strength and hope with them throughout the day. Everyday life can bring us challenges and stress that keeps our higher power and our willingness to let go from being in the forefront of our minds.

Everyone has to come up with their own way of working through each step of Alcohol Anonymous because they have to find what works for them. After researching Step Three I realize that this step may be harder for some people than it is for others. Many people meditate each morning focusing on the energy and strength they need which can help in every aspect of their life not just in AA. It doesn't matter where you get your hope and strength from, what matters is that you're able to tap into to it, receive it and be there to help someone else.

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